I once read in a blog where the blogger, a mom, had ranted about how irritated she was when people adviced her on mommying. While reading it for the first time, I felt that she was overreacting. When you are a first time mom, you dont know how things work out and you are supposed to listen to experienced mommies/parents. I thought the blogger mommy was creating a fuss out of it.Obviously I was not a mom then. Now she has a company.
My kid is very much on the thinner side. I have not passed on my bulky trait to him or may be its too early to judge. Everybody who get to meet him for the first time points that out and advices me to feed him more so that he gains weight and looks good. Agreed. I really appreciate their concern1
But the frustration peeps in when the 'advicer' goes overboard. Poking jokes that the mommy shouldnt eat all the food and instead feed the kid or a lecture on how to run behind my kid and make him eat and how they were good at it with their own kid seriously sucks.
What really takes me to the heights of frustration is blaming me for not being a good at taking care of my kid- you dont feed him properly/ you are not careful with your kid/you dont care much. That sucks to the core.
Ours is a nuclear family and we dont even have close friends or relatives who are not part of our lives on a day to day basis, which means we literally raise our kid by ourselves and we are completely on our own. This being the case, I really dont understand when people do the blaming thing that I was not right in my part in bringing up my child. Before talking about my part do they ever thought about the part they play on my kid's upbringing? They were not with us during our moment of crisis.
People if you ever feel that I am not feeding him properly or not being much attentive to him, why dont you show me how to do that? Why dont you cook for him, feed him, attend to his tantrums, change diapers and clean poop, thus setting an example.
I know am not an ideal wife or mommy material but I am taking the slow and steady method to learn stuff. It takes time. I am imperfect in certain departments and I totally agree. But bluntly blaming doesnt help in any way. It just hurts.
My kid is very much on the thinner side. I have not passed on my bulky trait to him or may be its too early to judge. Everybody who get to meet him for the first time points that out and advices me to feed him more so that he gains weight and looks good. Agreed. I really appreciate their concern1
But the frustration peeps in when the 'advicer' goes overboard. Poking jokes that the mommy shouldnt eat all the food and instead feed the kid or a lecture on how to run behind my kid and make him eat and how they were good at it with their own kid seriously sucks.
What really takes me to the heights of frustration is blaming me for not being a good at taking care of my kid- you dont feed him properly/ you are not careful with your kid/you dont care much. That sucks to the core.
Ours is a nuclear family and we dont even have close friends or relatives who are not part of our lives on a day to day basis, which means we literally raise our kid by ourselves and we are completely on our own. This being the case, I really dont understand when people do the blaming thing that I was not right in my part in bringing up my child. Before talking about my part do they ever thought about the part they play on my kid's upbringing? They were not with us during our moment of crisis.
People if you ever feel that I am not feeding him properly or not being much attentive to him, why dont you show me how to do that? Why dont you cook for him, feed him, attend to his tantrums, change diapers and clean poop, thus setting an example.
I know am not an ideal wife or mommy material but I am taking the slow and steady method to learn stuff. It takes time. I am imperfect in certain departments and I totally agree. But bluntly blaming doesnt help in any way. It just hurts.
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